I am undergoing a period of personal growth.. exploring new ideas and mindsets. Continuing to work on improving my chronic migraines, improving fitness, and pulling my life together in a whole new way.
I've redrawn my personal goals and am posting them here.
STRENGTHS
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Organised
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Self-Aware
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Currently
have Time
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Focused
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Honest
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Motivated
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Care
for
o Myself
o My family
o My friends
o My home
o My work
o My community
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Stubborn
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Methodical
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Logical
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I
have Support
o Steve
o Jennie
o Mum
o Friends
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PRIORITIES FOR MYSELF
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HEALTH
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GOAL: Decrease
Headaches
ACTIONS:
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Stress
Management (meditation, mindfulness, CBT)
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Acupuncture
(weekly)
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Monitor
Activity levels to reduce flare
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GOAL: Increase
activity 5% every 2 weeks
ACTIONS:
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monitor
all activity with runkeeper & fitbit
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Investigate
Heart Rate Monitor for Flare management
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Commit
to daily exercise
Every
week, review data and headache
flares
GOAL: Lose
weight and Increase fitness
ACTIONS:
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develop
weekly meal plans inc. breakfast and lunch
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Log
food, exercise and body measurements in MFP and runkeeper
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Develop
daily exercise plan including walking, pilates and weight training
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GOAL: Stop Smoking
ACTIONS:
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choose
time to stop
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re-read
alan carr method book
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SOCIAL
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GOAL: Connect
with Friends
ACTIONS:
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Arrange
catch-up with a friend at least once a month
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GOAL: Return
to Work
ACTIONS:
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Consider
booking session/s with Julie / Leanne for Careers Counselling
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Identify
concerns / barriers
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Consider
what type of work
·
Consider
how much is reasonable to start with
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Re-work
resume
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Apply
for jobs
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INDIVIDUAL INTERESTS
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GOAL: Make
Time for Doing the Things and Projects I Love
ACTIONS:
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Crochet
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Painting
(art)
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Furniture
Restoration
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Reading
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Maintain
and improve Calibre Library
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Baking
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Sewing
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Painting/
Home Improvement
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Garden
projects
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MARRIAGE
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INDIVIDUAL WORK
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GOAL: Identify
Individual Needs, Wants, Areas for Improvement
ACTIONS:
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Attend
Individual Counselling with Priya (weekly)
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Work
out what my interests, strengths, priorities, hopes for my future are
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Continue
reading, e.g. anger book, books on self-discovery, etc
to find what I really want and how I can improve myself as a person
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Continue
to take time for self-reflection
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Talk
with and Listen to friends - multiple perspectives are helpful and can help
keep things real
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GOAL: Identify
the Positives, strengths and problem areas within the marriage
ACTIONS:
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Attend
Individual Counselling with Priya (weekly)
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Recognise
the problems that are not mine to fix
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Identify
my role in problem areas and develop strategies to change my own approach
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Utilise
a strengths-based approach to find solutions
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Continue
to take time for self-reflection
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Talk
with and Listen to friends - multiple perspectives are helpful and can help
keep things real
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COUPLES WORK
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GOAL: Date
Nights
ACTIONS:
Set aside regular time as a couple.
I would like that time to be a bit "special" not just random tv watching. To get dressed up and cook a special dinner, go out for dinner or a movie, Not a huge effort but bit out of the everyday. GOAL: Nights out with other couples
ACTIONS:
Make an effort to arrange to spend adult time
with our friends.
·
double
date with Doug and Jen,
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dinner
with Alexius and Jeff,
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going out
with a group of grown ups (jacksons, sonya, Gael and Evan..)
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hosting dinner parties
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FAMILY
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EDWARDS FAMILY
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GOAL: Spend
More Time Having Fun With the Kids
ACTIONS:
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Ask
kids what fun things they would like to do:
o Individually
o with me
o with Steve
o as a family
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Make
a commitment to do the things the kids ask for - set aside time in the calendar and work to
achieve them
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GOAL: Family
Fitness
ACTIONS:
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Prioritise
Fitness within the family.
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It
is NOT OK to spend all day on the computer.
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Negotiate
appropriate boundaries for different activities
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Facilitate
exposing the kids to different types of physical activity.
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GOAL: Kids will
assist with maintaining the home
ACTIONS:
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Kids
will have age appropriate chores
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Kids
will contribute to meal planning, and meal preparation
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I
will work with each kid to build their organisational and time management
skills (e.g. teach Thomas to use the
google calendar system, star charts for Charlie)
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Expectations
and consequences will be negotiated
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EXTENDED FAMILY
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GOAL: Hedwacks
Days/Nights
ACTIONS:
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Review
frequency of Hedwacks Activities and use of google calendar with Hedwacks
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Develop
a list of activities that Hedwacks would like to see this year
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GOAL: Spend more time with grandparents
ACTIONS:
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Review
frequency of days spent with Midge and Robert.
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Consider
activities we could do with them
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Think
about how often the kids speak with Libby and Frank - can we encourage the kids to
call/email/write/skype more frequently?
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Is
there a way we can budget to get Sophie/ kids /whole family to Cairns more
frequently?
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HOME
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ORGANISATION
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GOAL: Return
the house to a reasonable standard of cleanliness
ACTIONS:
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Work
through each room,
o deep cleaning
o decluttering
o reorganising
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Develop
daily routines to do basic day to day cleaning to maintain home
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Utilise
a system, that is accessible to the family so if I am unwell, others can step
in and take up the tasks I have not been able to complete
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Communicate
with family what work is not yet completed on a given day, and what I expect
them to be doing.
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GOAL: Negotiate
areas of responsibility / chore lists for all family members.
ACTIONS:
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Develop
daily chore list, and allocate tasks
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Agree
on consequences for non-completion of tasks
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Agree
on how tasks should be re-allocated in the event of illness/absence/clash of
commitments
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GOAL: Get
involved in the finances
ACTIONS:
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Get
access to bank accounts and up to speed with
where mortages are at
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Get
a handle on current expenses and spending
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Develop
budget
o identify areas to reduce costs
o prioritise repayment of debts
o prioritise and plan savings for
things we want
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Review
Long term financial plan, including investment strategy, superannuation, future
education costs for the children etc.
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Develop
a plan to save for known potential
costs (e.g. replacement of cars, stoves, dishwashers, rental property
maintenance etc.)
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HOME IMPROVEMENTS
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GOAL: Develop
a priority list for home improvements
ACTIONS:
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List
all things we would like to do around the home - open imaginations and
dream! - don't consider the cost or
how at this stage.
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Prioritise
List of Dreams in terms of importance, and cost… What big ticket items do we want to save
for in what order??
o big garden landscaping project?
o skylights?
o replace tiles with floorboards?
o custom build desks, and storage in
the office?
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Factor
saving (even tiny amounts) for big ticket items, and smaller projects into
family budget
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Create
list of small tasks with less financial impact (e.g. painting a room, a section of garden etc.) and prioritise.
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GOAL: Plan
and implement small projects
ACTIONS:
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Take
small home improvements list and allocate tasks (e.g. Steve fix kids towel
rail, Sophie paint the reading room etc.)
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Negotiate
time frames for work to be undertaken, taking into account workloads, budget
etc.
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