Sophie - Updated Personal Goals and Priorities

Sophie here..

I am undergoing a period of personal growth.. exploring new ideas and mindsets.  Continuing to work on improving my chronic migraines,  improving fitness, and  pulling my life together in a whole new way.

I've redrawn my personal goals and am posting them here.

STRENGTHS

·         Organised ·         Self-Aware ·         Currently have Time ·         Focused ·         Honest ·         Motivated ·         Care for o   Myself o   My family o   My friends o   My home o   My work o   My community ·         Stubborn ·         Methodical ·         Logical ·         I have Support o   Steve o   Jennie o   Mum o   Friends

PRIORITIES FOR MYSELF

HEALTH

GOAL:  Decrease Headaches ACTIONS: ·         Stress Management (meditation, mindfulness, CBT) ·         Acupuncture (weekly) ·         Monitor Activity levels to reduce flare

GOAL:  Increase activity 5% every 2 weeks ACTIONS: ·         monitor all activity with runkeeper & fitbit ·         Investigate Heart Rate Monitor for Flare management ·         Commit to daily exercise Every  week,  review data and headache flares GOAL:  Lose weight and Increase fitness ACTIONS: ·         develop weekly meal plans inc. breakfast and lunch ·         Log food, exercise and body measurements in MFP and runkeeper ·         Develop daily exercise plan including walking, pilates and weight training

GOAL:  Stop Smoking ACTIONS: ·         choose time to stop ·         re-read alan carr method book

SOCIAL

GOAL:  Connect with  Friends ACTIONS: ·         Arrange catch-up with a friend at least once a month

GOAL:  Return to Work ACTIONS: ·         Consider booking session/s with Julie / Leanne for Careers Counselling ·         Identify concerns / barriers ·         Consider what type of work ·         Consider how much is reasonable to start with ·         Re-work resume ·         Apply for jobs

INDIVIDUAL INTERESTS

GOAL:  Make Time for  Doing the Things  and Projects I Love ACTIONS: ·         Crochet ·         Painting (art) ·         Furniture Restoration ·         Reading ·         Maintain and improve Calibre Library ·         Baking ·         Sewing ·         Painting/ Home Improvement ·         Garden projects

MARRIAGE

INDIVIDUAL WORK

GOAL:  Identify Individual Needs, Wants, Areas for Improvement ACTIONS: ·         Attend Individual Counselling with Priya (weekly) ·         Work out what my interests, strengths, priorities, hopes for my future are ·         Continue reading, e.g. anger book, books on self-discovery,  etc  to find what I really want and how I can improve myself as a person ·         Continue to take time for self-reflection ·         Talk with and Listen to friends - multiple perspectives are helpful and can help keep things real

GOAL:  Identify the Positives, strengths and problem areas within the marriage ACTIONS: ·         Attend Individual Counselling with Priya (weekly) ·         Recognise the problems that are not mine to fix ·         Identify my role in problem areas and develop strategies to change my own approach ·         Utilise a strengths-based approach to find solutions ·         Continue to take time for self-reflection ·         Talk with and Listen to friends - multiple perspectives are helpful and can help keep things real

COUPLES WORK

GOAL:  Date Nights ACTIONS: Set aside regular time as a couple.   I would like that time to be a bit "special" not just random tv watching.   To get dressed up and cook a special dinner,  go out for dinner or a movie, Not a huge effort but bit out of the everyday.  GOAL:  Nights out with other couples ACTIONS: Make an effort to arrange to spend adult time with our friends.   ·         double date with Doug and Jen,  ·         dinner with Alexius and Jeff,   ·         going out with a group of grown ups (jacksons, sonya, Gael and Evan..) ·         hosting  dinner parties

FAMILY

EDWARDS FAMILY

GOAL:  Spend More Time Having Fun With the Kids ACTIONS: ·         Ask kids what fun things they would like to do: o   Individually o   with me o   with Steve o   as a family ·         Make a commitment to do the things the kids ask for  - set aside time in the calendar and work to achieve them

GOAL:  Family Fitness ACTIONS: ·         Prioritise Fitness within the family.    ·         It is NOT OK to spend all day on the computer.   ·         Negotiate appropriate boundaries for different activities ·         Facilitate exposing the kids to different types of physical activity.

GOAL:  Kids will assist with maintaining the home ACTIONS: ·         Kids will have age appropriate chores ·         Kids will contribute to meal planning, and meal preparation ·         I will work with each kid to build their organisational and time management skills   (e.g. teach Thomas to use the google calendar system, star charts for Charlie) ·         Expectations and consequences will be negotiated

EXTENDED FAMILY

GOAL:  Hedwacks Days/Nights ACTIONS: ·         Review frequency of Hedwacks Activities and use of google calendar with Hedwacks ·         Develop a list of activities that Hedwacks would like to see this year

GOAL: Spend more time with grandparents ACTIONS: ·         Review frequency of days spent with Midge and Robert.   ·         Consider activities we could do with them ·         Think about how often the kids speak with Libby and Frank  - can we encourage the kids to call/email/write/skype more frequently? ·         Is there a way we can budget to get Sophie/ kids /whole family to Cairns more frequently?

HOME

ORGANISATION

GOAL:  Return the house to a reasonable standard of cleanliness ACTIONS: ·         Work through each room, o   deep cleaning o    decluttering o   reorganising ·         Develop daily routines to do basic day to day cleaning to maintain home ·         Utilise a system, that is accessible to the family so if I am unwell, others can step in and take up the tasks I have not been able to complete ·         Communicate with family what work is not yet completed on a given day, and what I expect them to be doing.

GOAL:  Negotiate areas of responsibility / chore lists for all family members.  ACTIONS: ·         Develop daily chore list, and allocate tasks ·         Agree on consequences for non-completion of tasks ·         Agree on how tasks should be re-allocated in the event of illness/absence/clash of commitments

GOAL:  Get involved in the finances ACTIONS: ·         Get access to bank accounts and up to speed with  where mortages are at ·         Get a handle on current expenses and spending ·         Develop budget o    identify areas to reduce costs o   prioritise repayment of debts o   prioritise and plan savings for things we want ·         Review Long term financial plan, including investment strategy, superannuation, future education costs for the children etc. ·         Develop a plan to save for  known potential costs  (e.g.  replacement of cars,  stoves, dishwashers, rental property maintenance etc.)

HOME IMPROVEMENTS

GOAL:  Develop a priority list for home improvements ACTIONS: ·         List all things we would like to do around the home - open imaginations and dream!  - don't consider the cost or how at this stage.  ·         Prioritise List of Dreams in terms of importance, and cost…  What big ticket items do we want to save for in what order??  o    big garden landscaping project? o   skylights? o   replace tiles with floorboards?  o   custom build desks, and storage in the office?   ·         Factor saving (even tiny amounts) for big ticket items, and smaller projects into family budget ·         Create list of small tasks with less financial impact (e.g. painting a room,  a section of garden etc.)  and prioritise.

GOAL:  Plan and implement small projects ACTIONS: ·         Take small home improvements list and allocate tasks (e.g. Steve fix kids towel rail, Sophie paint the reading room etc.) ·         Negotiate time frames for work to be undertaken, taking into account workloads, budget etc.